Ready For More

When do you know you are ready for more children? Do you feel it? Do you go by your age, or your child’s age? How do we know when the right time is to expand our family?

Those questions have been in my head for months. I feel like I want something that I shouldn’t. Like there is this feeling that I know I want, but I feel like it would not be approved.

We talked about it. We discussed all of the pros and cons. We feel that we are ready. We feel our child is ready. Yet there is this void that is knocking on the back of our minds, trying to tell us no.

Looking back at 2 years ago I know I wasn’t ready. Princess was only 2 years old and I felt like I wanted to be just with her for a while. I wanted to give all of my attention to her, all of my love. Now that she’s 4 and a half I feel like it’s the perfect time to start planning for the second.

Hubby has mixed feelings. He’s both excited and scared at the same time.

I am very sure of me being ready, or at least sure of this feeling.

I know it will not be easy, but in reality when is? I don’t think in 5 more years it will be easier. It will still be a baby, still sleepless nights, still the same work.

I don’t share my feelings about this very often. I don’t tell people or family how I feel when it comes to children.

In the past four years I have come to realize that people think my life is much harder than it is. In reality I feel that life is hard in general, and that children don’t make it much harder. Children are maybe a little more expensive, but not harder. When you decide in your life what you want it’s easier to come with the terms of the outcomes.

Share with us: How and when did you know that you were ready?

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